A few years ago, I received a sad telephone call
informing me that one of my good friends from college, Peter Rothwell, had
passed away.
“Rocky,” as he was generally known (the childhood nickname
came from the Rocky & Friends cartoon show and stuck), and I had been in
touch on-and-off during the years since college, but not recently. I sort of knew what he was doing and where he
lived, but I didn’t know that he was ill.
Rocky was a lovely guy – kind, extremely intelligent,
musical and quiet – tending toward the solitary, but not unsociable when he
found himself in a crowd. Because he was so modest and reticent by nature, he exuded a
sort of mystery and was (I don’t think I’m alone in feeling this) a bit charismatic. That is to say, when you were in his company
you liked being there and wanted more.
We last saw each other sometime in 1999. Rocky traveled uptown from the financial
district where he worked to join me for lunch at a beautiful restaurant I liked a lot called Aquavit, which
was located in the former Rockefeller
townhouse on West 54th Street where Nelson Rockefeller sighed his last sigh. (Quite a story there. Perhaps you remember it.)
Rocky looked good. There was silver through his hair now,
but he was fit and still smoking cigarettes like a professional. It was great to see him again and unexpectedly uplifting to find him pretty much unchanged so many years after graduation.
He began by telling me about his career.
Like so many of my college friends, after a false start in graduate
school (NYU for psychology), he gravitated to software design. His current
work had him developing new and improved
ways for printing computer codes on bank checks. He related as much detail as he probably thought I
could stand on this subject and then turned to other matters,
including a fairly shocking and politically incorrect story about Leon
Klinghoffer, the wheelchair-bound American who was pushed off the Achille Lauro in 1985 by Palestinian terrorists. Rocky told me
that he had once worked for Klinghoffer and that nobody who knew the man (who was apparently chronically obstreperous) was the least bit surprised
that he would be thrown overboard by
someone someday -- it was only a
matter of time.
The tunny or false albacore
Then he got to the heart of the matter.
He wanted to tell me what his life was all about and why, in
essence, we would probably never speak again.
Rocky had grown up as a fisherman. I knew that he enjoyed spending time on the
water with his father, joined sometimes by his brother and sister, more than
just about anything. In adulthood, Rocky’s fishing took an usual turn, however. The pursuit
of striped bass eventually gave way to the greater challenge of ocean saltwater
flyfishing (mainly off Montauk, New York) and a quest for an inedible
sportfish known as false albacore or tunny. Tunny-fishing was a never-ending, early morning-to-night game
of Nearly-Impossible-To-Catch-And-Immediately Release, and Rocky explained that this was now essentially his
whole life. All other professional and
personal activities were subservient to and waited upon this one.
He didn’t pontificate; he didn’t bore. In fact, even though I’m not a fisherman and to a large degree find sportfishing objectionable as an activity, I
found what he said utterly engrossing.
He knew and associated with other fishermen (on land only; on the water, with
the possible exception of family members, he worked alone), but this was
basically solitary, highly concentrated and satisfying intellectual and
physical work for him. You always strove to
improve your performance, but the results were eternally uncertain; you could never confidently predict or “game” the outcome. When we got up from the table, Rocky surprised me by giving me a
picture of himself on his boat, and at that moment I really did feel pretty sure I would never see
him again. Weird, but by that time I was
coming to appreciate that life was weird.
After Rocky passed away, I learned that he was basically a
legend on the east end of Long Island, considered one of great men of his sport, as well as being a
capital fellow.
What prompted this reverie (and this may seem like an odd
jump) was an article I read yesterday in the Swarthmore College Daily Gazette, an online campus
newspaper, recounting how Swarthmore students, in the wake
of the various national “Occupy” events, had now embraced the despicable “human
microphone” as a preferred form of on-campus political “communication.”
"Scroll neck" from Ampeg bass guitar. This was the instrument Rocky played (quite well). Rick Danko also.
Apart from the fact that the horrid (and stupidly named) "human microphone" easily sets up the obvious, but
funny, “I [State Your Name]”/ “I [State Your Name]” call-and-response joke from
the movie “Animal House,” the very idea of students at my (or any) college parroting
in monotone unison quasi-celebration other people's unmediated, unconsidered words, rather than developing, speaking and
exchanging their own thoughts, is sick-making. Also (and this is getting Swarthmore-specific), our campus is tiny and students do not lack means and opportunity for electronic amplification (or anything else for that matter) there. Consequently, the "human microphone" device is gratuitous, self-indulgent and (all-time favorite college word incoming), "fascist."
Ampeg bass guitar with distinctive scroll neck.
My late
friend Peter Rothwell was a quiet person who always spoke his thoughts deliberately, forthrightly and confidently. “Critical thinking,”
that contemporary campus cliche, came naturally to him and grew out of his brain, his education and his personal discipline; he didn’t
need to put quotation marks around the phrase, pose in front of a mirror
singing “Look At Me, I’m Wonderful” (a favorite Bonzo Dog Band song of ours) reflecting on its or his own personal glory, or amplify his non-musical thoughts through a human
microphone. (For his musical thoughts, he had a big bass amp.) If Peter knew about this Swarthmore development (and
I hope and trust he does), he’s shaking his head in amused disbelief, lighting up
another Lucky and planning his next foray on Long Island Sound with no worries
about the future, glad that we graduated and grew up.
